You Can Be Yourself, Until People Need You
Your Guide
Dr. Femke Bakker is a Selfgentleness guide, meditation teacher, political psychologist and former actor. For decades she was the strong one, tired and hard on herself, until she found a gentler way she now calls selfgentleness.
Journey Description
You know who you are when it's just you. In your own company you can hear yourself clearly, and you trust what you find there. Then someone needs an answer, a decision, a direction, and something shifts. You reach for the old rational mode, the one that has carried you for years, and the person you are when you're alone goes quiet. This is a ten-part journey for anyone who guides or carries other people, in a family, a small team, or something much larger, and who wants to stay themselves while they do it. Through meditation, visualization, and a set of unhurried reflections, you'll move through what it takes to lead without leaving yourself behind, and arrive at a way of leading that still sounds like you.
Journey Tracks
Intro to the Journey: Come As You Are
Where the journey begins, and where you meet the version of you that only shows up when it's just you.
Episode 1 The You Only You Can Hear.
Find your way back to the voice that goes quiet around others.
Episode 2 Staying Yourself When Others Depend On You
The relationship at the heart of leading, and why you can feel authentic yet never fully control how you're seen.
Episode 3 An Honest Look, Without The Harshness
Face yourself kindly, strengths and shame alike.
Episode 4 Really Seeing The People In Front Of You
A presence practice for setting the tone by knowing your people, not just the task.
Episode 5 It Starts With How You Treat Yourself
The way you meet others begins with you.
Episode 6 Letting Go Of Needing To Be Right
Soften the grip, open the mind.
Episode 7 Clarity Comes When You Stop Pushing
Stop forcing it and let the answer surface.
Episode 8 Answering To Yourself, Not The Room
Stay true, even when it means changing course.
Episode 9 What You Actually Stand For
Uncover the value underneath the way you lead.
Episode 10 Picturing What Comes Next
Imagine what you want to shape, and close the journey.
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